Divine Feminine, I missed you.

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; 

we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

photo Celyn Nicholson - Un Lieu sur Terre

On getting re-acquainted with my own Spirituality

I am not a religious person.

I was born and raised catholic. Followed the path that my parents carved for me (baptized, First communion and all) until I reached an age where I realized that if I did believe in “something” bigger than myself, I had a really difficult time putting a “name“, a “label“, a “how to“, an “already created ritual and ceremony” that was not what my own “gut feeling”.  Add in the mix some life tragedies and the fact that I was told at my young age to pray to make things better… I found myself rather at lost when things went really sideways and the “better” never happened.

The worse happened. My mother had a terrible ski accident which left her in a wheel chair, her brother succumbed to a brain tumor few years later and my parents went through a painful divorce. It was a lot to take on over such a short period of time. And my prayers never got “answered”.

Well, in those moments when I experience these feelings (betrayed / lost and alone in the world) I have a tendency to slam that door pretty hard. You know, the moment of “I am done now” kind of feeling.  I didn’t want to reject everything about my Catholic experience, I just felt like dissociating myself from this “organization/congregation”. Of course, there are still stories, baseline, fundamental beliefs that I think are part of me.

Fast forward to few years later,  in the end I did not totally slammed the door  on my upbringing as a Catholic, I simply decided to hand pick my own system of beliefs instead of being spoon fed.

In my 20’s, I was working for a PR firm specialized in translating technical and technological works for compagnies like G.E.  Let me tell you that when you translate, texts can be so subjectively interpreted.  This made me realized  after on that if this was true when translating technical documents “at my very small scale”, imagine what to could be and how it could be misinterpreted on a much larger scale, or at a “higher altitude”, if you will when it comes ancien texts or story telling on religious matter. Translations can sometimes be “biased” by so many things : one word in one language has sometimes several different nuances to it in another one or simply doesn’t exist and can’t be translated (for instance the color blue didn’t have a name in ancient times).  For me, it’s all about giving permission.

Permission to interpret a word. Permission to interpret a way to keep the faith. Your faith.

HOW IT CHANGED EVERYTHING

This gave me freedom to think “differently” in many aspects of my life. This was a very important shift of thinking for me. I was given permission to start  looking at both what I believed  but most importantly at the way that I wanted to look at it.

I am all about hybrid. In my beliefs as well.

So, while I still admire the amazing architecture of many churches and cathedrals  – and  I do respect their sacredness – I no longer feel the need to attend church to connect.

I started crafting my “spirituality”. A true patchwork of what was inspiring me + speaking to my heart. I began creating my own altar at my house in Bagnols en Foret, where I used to live at that time. I created my own sacred rituals. Worded my own beliefs into my own songs / mantras. Lots of candles, some rocks and feathers,  some crystals, pictures of loved ones, an angel minimalist statue, an handcrafted wooden Buddha, semi precious stones, some handmade pottery for my insences.

In his book “A religion of One’s own”, Thomas Moore suggests that we could all create our own religion by simply  letting << a new kind of spiritual creativity, in which we no longer decide whether to believe in a given creed and follow a certain tradition blindy. […] Most important , we no longer feel the pressure to choose one tradition over another but rather are able to appreciate many routes to spiritual richness. This new religion is a blend of individual inspiration and inspiring tradition>>.

By trusting my own Spirituality and being aware of signs many things shifted and many good things happened.

I realized that my thoughts and spiritual practices were linked and were opening doors to me. I worked independly for many big events leaving me enough free time to restore my old shepherd house, met the love of my life (we have been together for 13 years now), travelled and lived abroad to the place that speaks to my heart: California.

When I moved to United States from my little stone house in Le Var, many things shifted again. I I was in my 30’s. I left my family and my friends in the South of France. I add to re-root myself but also re-grow some new wings as the lost of beloved mother seriously torn them in bits and pieces.  Some serious spiritual sewing would be necessary to patch my life back together.

The universe had my back and our first little precious baby girl ( now almost 14 years old ) was born few months after my mother passed away. Lack of sleep, lack of time to myself. Very little time to “practice” my spirituality.But I felt totally supported by the magic of the place we were living at that time.  Santa Barbara,California is one place that I call my “spiritual” place.

By letting go and trusting in something bigger than myself,  I met the “right” people, took ‘the right’ art classes. My creativity was going on full speed. After being a Raku potter, a clay sculptor, I followed my instincts and started intuitive mixed media painting.I mean, first small ones and all of the sudden :: huge canvases. Wild strokes + nature bits + discarded objects from the beach. Inspiration was pouring. I was creating many paintings  “intuitively”. It was so meditative. So divinely inspired. I did many shows / sold many of my mixed media artworks /  created an inspirational group of women who I  was “coaching”  on how to be (more) creative. I loved iiiiid. It felt like I was finally  living my life with purpose.

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WHAT HAPPEN WHEN YOU FELL OFF YOUR SPIRITUAL WAGON ?

Baby number 2 came along and then, we moved again. Back to France.  Gloops… France ?

I know this sounds “Magnifique” to you but for me it felt like I was moved from First class to coach. Seriously :: not a good feeling. Why ? Well, the main reason why I  left my country (France)  in the first place was because the energy was not aligned with my spirit.

So let me tell you that moving  back  felt like I was going back to square one. Result ? I stopped creating. I was miserable. As much as I tried to make the best  out of it, creatively I was literally flat lining.

Couple of years later ( we ended up staying nearby Paris for 5 years), I realized that I was wasting my talents (oui, exactement, my talents and with an S )and that life was too short. Once again, my spirituality and a bit of law of attraction help me. Creating is my medicine. My way to nurture myself back to life. This is my true belief.

Next ting I know, I decided to launch my handmade brand “Un lieu sur terre ( it means a place on earth, en francais). All screen printed handmade mindful goodies for your home and your soul. Sold some. Got some media attention (magazines and TV shows). All good.

Moved again (no, we are no in the military :  hubby’s corporate promotion).

So all on board:: 2 kids / 240 boxes ( 1/3 of it from my art studio 😉 seriously ) and a feeling of channeling Heidi: Switzerland  here we come!  We are now entering year 5.

Now, well in my 40’s (yep!), mum of now 3 kiddos [an old soul baby boy  who’s now 2 and half years old / a wise soul teen daughter with a high sense of spirituality and fashion / an 10 years old going onto 12, with the energy of wild horses on steroids 🙂 ] simply finding time to nurture both my spirituality and my creativity is a bit of a challenge. So I started practicing what I now call “Soultripping sessions” : a bit of art making with some deep spirituality “roots” to it.

I drew strengths  from my own experience and over the last couple of years I’ve been crafting an e-course called “The Sacred Soultripping Collective“, a 6 week online class with  a mindful & creative approach for traveling life’s transition times : from birth to death, from weddings to divorces, from break-ups to job change or job loss, transitions are fed by life-crises. But a transition is also a place for us to connect with our uniqueness and cultivate the courage to express ourselves fully in this world in spite of our outside circumstances. THE SACRED SOULTRIPPING e-course is the result of my quest for transitioning more gracefully.

My hope for my kids is to understand that it is crucial to believe that the universe has their back. That they need to figure what they love to do, so that in the end they’ll do what they love. It’s so utterly important that they grow up with is a strong sense of believing to ” Cosmos /Spirit / God / Buddha / Universe / Energy fields”.  They can have a way to connect with their own spirituality and create their “own inner religion”.  It does not take much to create meaningful altars  and  create some rituals to stitch their dreams in the fabric of their future. My girls still believe in angels / fairies / spirits from loved ones to show them to look out for some ” good happy signs” . 

We’re cosmic. We all have great cosmic capacities.

It is part of the Divine Feminine.

As a mama:: I need to pass it on.

As an artist :: I need to inspire.

Home is where my heART & spirituality are interwoven.

It’s loud and clear for me now : my art is inspired by my spirituality and vice versa. I must create to nurture myself and refill my love cup.

Back on track.

PS : In my “White Spaces” blog post : I share a lot of tips and why white spaces are  essential to letting go and shine your own light.

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔ 

  • Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / cook / danse / paint / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit.
  • Rejuvenate yourself with like minded people. Bathe yourself in beauty. Inside. Out.
  • Create a sacred altar within your home :: time to reconnect with yourself, your deep desires and keep them in focus. Write your sacred words / add some meaningful nature inspired forms / a candle or more. Make sure it is in a predominant sacred place of your home  (a Bagua Map is a big help) go see it and honor it everyday .

 

Minimalist with soul: celebrating Christmas in a mindful organic modern way.

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 The spirit of wabi-sabi  & simplicity can feed both our souls and memories.Reverence and respect for things that are handmade ;  finding new meaning and purpose for discarded objects ; and the presence of nothing more than is necessary, meaningful or beautiful (and the wisdom to know the difference) are defining elements of a wabi sabi.

Christmas is just around the corner. But, pretty please first take a deep breathe with me and feel a sense of calm.

Relax your mind and re-center on the moment.

I know you likely have a to-do-list that goes to the moon and back : but try to think about Christmas / Winter Solstice time in a much less agitated way. Recenter on the way you want to feel and experience this celebrating moments rather than follow the craziness around you.

This post will help you create a more meaningful way of hosting your guests and bringing soul to your Christmas / New Year Eve table setting. Time to create your own personal Holiday Spirit !

To make things easy for you I rounded up some simple ideas that are festive yet bring mindfulness with an organic modern  look to help inspire you.

This year dare the mindful  minimalist organic table look !

It is ALL about understanding what TRULY winter is.

Three words:

NATURE, SIMPLE & HOMEY

Once again, Scandinavian and Wabi Sabi will be my guide for this table stetting eye candy  special blog post.

Wabi-sabi is the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection and insight from nature. Wabi (harmony) and sabi (simplicity) chooses humility over ostentation, asceticism over extravagance. When you embrace this way of living, you naturally choose handmade / vintage objects made with wood, clay or textiles over those manufactured with plastic.

Reverence and respect for things that are hand crafted ; finding new meaning and purpose for discarded objects : this is what Wabi Sabi is all about.

Sadly, by looking at people shopping around me these days, you can tell that some kind of Christmas fever caught on fire for the past 3 weeks : multitude of holiday-themed paraphernalia and more plastic and  soul deprived objects than I could even imagined (and I did not dare to venture in toys stores).

In the story of Stuffs, Annie Leonard writes in this blog post about “Reclaiming the Holidays”

“Minimalist Holiday Celebration with Soul is experienced, hand made, home cooked rather than purchased.
It helps us to create a “white space” in our hearts, minds and calendars in order to experience this lovely time of the year.
But let’s not  forget to let our own personality shine through!
Bring on your creativity and your out-of the-box-thinking!”

This should also reflects in our home and on our festive table.

How do you incorporate rustic or reclaimed materials into your home?

Easily as long as you are ready for a bit of a mind shift if you this has not been your traditional way of celebrating so far.

As I mentioned in this blog post “, all we need need is tune in with Mother nature around us and bring some of her simple beauty and colors inside.

Both Wabi Sabi and Scandinavian consist of rustic beauty, for things both manmade and natural and to the idea that things become more beautiful and valuable over time. Cracks in the rough grain of a wood tabletop and natural hardwoods; the asymmetry and irregularity of mix-matched vintage chairs; and soft, earth-toned paint palettes are imperfectly perfect examples of the wabi sabi style.

Worn, weathered decorative pieces full with personal meaning; ornamentation reclaimed directly from Mother Nature ; and an eternal sense of modesty and humility that gives a living space a special intimacy . This season, let’s embrace the mindful wabi sabi way of design and table setting.

COMBINE PAIRED BACK AESTHETIC OF MODERN MINIMALISM

WITH THE CONSIDERED WAY OF LIVING

FROM THE WABI SABI PHILOSOPHY

In a nutshell, you will:

Candles /old crates (wintertime is the perfect time for candle light therapy)

Tree branches / pine cones / red berries / small trees

Terracota / ceramics / vintage touches (family heirloom)

Wooden table / mixed cozy chairs (and yes even Ikea…!)

Earth tone colors palette, grey +white+ black accents.

 
 

SOME RESOURCES TO INSPIRE

YOU SO YOU CAN TRY THIS AT HOME.

LIVE MORE SIMPLY / FIND BEAUTY IN EVERY DAY LIFE / MAKE THOUGHTFUL CHOICES / ENHANCE YOUR LIFE

 

 

 

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SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK

What part of Holiday Seasons (Winter Solstice/ Christmas/New year Eve) can you improve?

  • Is it cooking from scratch some family recipe with very few ingredients only bought at the farmer’s market?
  • Is it re-using, “tinkering”, “hacking’ complicated, expensive, stressful  family traditions for your table setting and your meal planning?
  • Is it lovingly teaching your family and children that this year you are going to try have a greener and more soulful Celebration time  ? 
  • And remember from  a previous post  about the value of the Wabi Sabi philosophy :

<< When the Japanese mend broken objects, they believe that when something suffered damage and has  a history,  it becomes more beautiful>>

SHARING IS CARING

And I will always try to make it easy to do it for you! Just click on the quote below to share it on Twitter.

Mindful Holiday Celebration with Soul is experienced, hand made, home cooked rather than purchased @unlieusurterre #simplicity #Christmas2013 #Decorate 

Share this blog post on Facebook following the easy link right below. I love to read your comments, so don’t hesitate to do so on my Facebook Page on how you plan to have a more mindful and meaning Holiday Celebrations this year.

 

 

 

Thanksgiving : the Wabi-Sabi way

“We feel Wabi-Sabi at Thanksgiving, perhaps more than any other time of the year.

The farms and fields are combed of grain and produce, the dormant ground appears

as rich as potting soil andthe trees revealtheir branchy bones and wounds

and marks of years of sylviculture.”

Wabi Sabi Simple: Create Beauty. Value Imperfection. Live Deeply – By Richard R. Powell

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It is fascinating to notice the contrast of what our holiday seasons have become compare to the ones, for instance,  our great grand parents used to have. In the old days, the focus was the quality of the food, the time spent together and was certainly  “lacking” of perfectionism that our modern world impose upon us.

As much as I am deeply drawn to scandinavian simplicity – which some of you might object and  define as “perfectionism”-, to me it is the beauty in the simplicity, the absence of too “muchness”, the clean, un-clutter, natural, raw materials used throughout the home.

I am drawn the same way to this beautiful Japanese way of living called Wabi-Sabi.

Wabi Sabi celebrates the beauty of the imperfection. It is actually an art form.

Wabi-sabi is the art of finding beauty in imperfection: it values simplicity, uncluttered, underplayed, and modest surroundings. Authenticity is key to wabi-sabi philosophy: <<the presence of cracks and scratches in things are considered to be symbolic of the passing of time, weather, and loving use>>.

Wabi-sabi decor inspires minimalism that focuses more on the people who live in the space than anything else. Possessions and other items are pared down to the essentials based on utility and simple beauty.

It is such a contrast with our modern and western view of the Holiday seasons !

Just by taking a brief look into the shopping malls, catalogs, magazines and you will be overwhelmed by intricate home decor “made in cheap” that will last you about a season until it breaks or is out-of-trend.So much to “choice” from and add to our natural stress level of the holiday season.

In the end it does not add, it depletes you.

With this post, I hope to inspired you to look at what you already have and use it is a different way, bring nature in, make some easy crafts, share some simple and homemade  food (yes, all made from scratch). Dig into your old family recipe that takes no more than 5 easy ingredients to make. Don’t over do it. It does have have to be gourmet, nor does it have to look like a picture perfect  as the great Martha Steward (love her dearly but she a whole team working for her!).

I used to love creating the same sort of home decor and the perfect  Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner, parties, etc. As much as it was rewarding in the end to have something looking like what you had envisioned it was also very stressful and not always enjoyable.

I am slowly learning and reminding myself that perfection is not ideal when stress is fueling it. It is a huge mind shift for me as I have to un-teach myself that in the end it is all going to be fine and friends and family won’t know what was planned “in my mind” compare to what is “on the table”.

Keep it simple and enjoy a lovely Wabi-Sabi Thanksgiving filled up with joy, mindful moments, gratitude shared with friends and family.

 

The Wabi Sabi art of living focuses on living a life based on “being enough”, living modestly.

In terms of “style” It reminds me a little the Shaker style : white and earthy tones palette, natural, raw materials (wood, natural fabrics,

ceramic).

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EIGHT easy steps to simplify your Thanksgiving  table setting :

 

ONE :

First gather everything that has a worn wooden look to it (bread cutting boards, wooden bowls, wooden plates, etc.)

 

TWO :

Then gather everything that is made of simple white  porcelain ( coffee cups / plates / bowls )

THREE:

If you have  and can borrow some of your grandma silverware, sprinkle some in the mix.

FOUR :

Take a nice relaxing walk and gather meaningful rocks, branches, acorns, pinecones, dried leaves that you could use in small amount to naturally invite the beauty of the season to your table.

FIVE:

Create some simple and yet thoughful place mats / mini decor to have your guests leave comments, thoughts on what being Thankful mean to them. I gathered many beautiful examples on my Special  “MINIMALIST THANKSGIVING” Pinterest Board right here.

SIX:

Bring some twinkling lights in with recycled mason jars, and simple tea lights to bring lights to your table.

SEVEN:


Have your children, grand children write the menu on a chalkboard.

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EIGHT:

Breathe :: your Thanksgiving is going to be perfectly “imperfect” and beautiful. Enjoy and make yourself a nice cup of tea with your handmade tea bags.

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HERE ARE SOME EYE CANDY PICTURES

TO REIMAGINE YOUR THANKSGIVING AND

SHINE A NEW SIMPLE LIGHT UPON IT.

 

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[ More gorgeous pictures on my special Pinterest Minimalist Thanksgiving  board ]

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK

What part of Thanksgiving Day can you improve?

  • Is it cooking from scratch some family recipe with very few ingredients only bought at the farmer’s market?
  • Is it re-using, “tinkering”, “hacking’ complicated, expensive, stressful  family traditions for your table setting and your meal planning?
  • Is it lovingly teaching your family and children that this year you are going to try have a greener and more soulful Thanksgiving Day?
  • And remember from last week post the value of the Wabi Sabi philosophy :

<< When the Japanese mend broken objects, they believe that when something suffered damage and has  a history,  it becomes more beautiful>>

SHARING IS CARING

And I will always try to make it easy to do it for you! Just click on the quote below to share it on Twitter.

perfection is not ideal when stress is fueling it @unlieusurterre #simplicity#thanksgiving

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Honoring Woman’s “Rites of Passage” with The Desire Map

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.

Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

― Rumi

Honoring Woman’s “Rites of Passage” with The Desire Map , Intuitive Art making and the Scandinavian Art of Cosiness.

UPDATE 2017

I’m currently going through another layer of deep transformation as I transitioning from one status to another. I can’t say much more here and now. But it’s deep and raw transition time. What I wrote 2 year ago below still resonate and vibrate with every cell of my body. I can’t say enough how important it is to honor your life rites of passage.

March, 2015

My baby boy just turn One year old few weeks ago.

365 days where Mother Earth rotated around the Sun .

As I reflect back on the year that went by (so quickly), I also feel the importance to welcome and release the fear his first moments being my last ones. His first time drinking out of the bottle being my last time nursing him. His first time (finally) sleeping through the night being my last time walking him endlessly on the balcony at night watching the moon reflecting on the lake.

Once I realized those moments were gone,- blame it on the changes in hormones level – I felt so sad, helpless. Mind you, I am not sad to finally sleep at night, but I feel melancholic about those moments that I may not have treasured “properly”. Those life changes need their very own rituals.  They need to be seen as the stepping stones of our current evolution, seed of our growth. So I did a ritual to welcome the change and let go of the past.

Like many of you, I went through  many massive life changes.

Nothing really life threatening.

Quite possibly life strengthening.

The followings life events were kept private (within the group of closest friends). But I need to release them to be recomposed in the Universe into something better. At age 44, I still carry the burden of some of them and this affects my parenting, my being in this world. Those life changes created a shell, an invisible wall to protect me to not feel pain anymore.  But I now understand better that this is not the way it works.

So here we go:

To my fearful inner child, I let go of this event:  age 8 a battle field called divorce (not mine. My parents: me as a young child stuck between ugly battles). Followed by what I  now call  The lost of innocence : a tragic “simple” ski accident that changed for the worse my mum’s life when she was 33 / erased my “traditional” faith in church / turned our life inside out  forever (she ended up in hospital for almost a decade with heavy symptoms and handicaps).

To my brave self young adult: at age 30 my chosen expatriation from France to California (my very own first grown up choice. I will do it all over again) But still quite a challenge and massive life change. Age 31:  A double-bind decision (the worse of many)- the one that what ever choice you make, you lose. My mother asked me  to give her  “permission” to  “let go” of her own life. I can still hear myself saying that “I understood and respected her choice” (crying writing this).  An almost simultaneous arrival and departure of a “soul” (lost my mother few weeks before getting pregnant with my first born).

Rituals

In those difficult  transition times you can hardly see what you truly want as you are mostly driven by fear and anxiety. You need to be re-acquainted to your authentic self. But when you don’t know how- well, you can drift for a long time.

 

When my mother past away, I had just moved from France to California to be with my fiance. Our first baby girl was born 10 months after my mum’s funeral. There was so many shots at that time that I could not connect : being a first time mum as I just lost mine was a vulnerable point for me for many years. As an expat and a first time mom, I was trying to connect with like-minded women.

Luckily, leaving in the USA  I discovered the power of women circles,  friends and support groups lead me powerful books discoveries. It was a time where I started a journey to re-discover my  muted artist’s voice creating intuitive and mixed media paintings, making “raku” and ceramic wares to celebrate and treasure the union of the handmade with the daily sacred. I was fighting the best I could the layers of  grief,  emptiness, powerless feelings. Thankfully lovingly “covered” by warm layers of love from my father, my husband and my baby girl.

At that time, I often danced between inspired, intuitive bursts of positive and über creative energy when things flowed easily the way I wanted. Or, the complete opposite when grieving felt unbearable and whenever life seemed to “get in my way”, taking all my vital energy and sending me spiraling down an endless road of semi-depression and loads of confusion. Over the years, I also came to understand that grieving is the ground for growth.

I now know that those stages in my woman’s life were ideal period of times to transform my life. In deep.

Transition times are initiation time awaited to be claimed.

Time to be bold and face your fears, your dreams, your desires.

We are all at some point in our lives “Godesses of the Unfurling Unknown Path” ahead.

Both welcoming the changes, still mourning the past and dreading the future.

What The desire Map taught me 

Here’s when synchronicity happened and where Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map came in (along with other life changing books and many aha’s moments).

It was one of the catalysts for the change that I needed.

I realized that I was not a problem to be fixed. 

I understood that I did not have  lost access to yourself. 

I witnessed that I had what I needed inside of me.

WE ARE WORTHY OF YOUR DESIRES AND IF WE COMMIT TO WANTING WHAT WE WANT AND HONORING OUR DESIRES AND PUT THEM AT THE CENTER OF OUR DAILY PLANS, WE WILL RISE UP AND WALK OUR TALK ON OUR MOST PREFERRED TRAIL.

What making Intuitive Art taught me 

As a Mixed Media artist, sculptor and Raku lover

 

How Hygge and Lagom help me

So I wonder : what need to be healed, heard, for you? Have you been practicing rituals to celebrate your your current or past Rites of Passage?

If you are so inclined, please share your story or anything you wish on my Facebook.

My posts are currently closed to comments to avoid spammers.

Thank you for your openness and your courage to voice your truth.

SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK 

  • Spiritually : connect with your soul friends / your feel good communities / cook / danse / paint / attend classes, workshops, lectures that will lift your spirit. 
  • Schedule time for you. Just for you. I started taking a beautiful 10 days Kundalini meditation introduction with #AnnapurnaLiving and I love it so much ! The chanting for me is my favorite part.
  • Try something new. Expand your comfort zone little by little. Raw Food . Meditation. Digital Eco Art Therapy. Be open to signs.
  • If you live on The French Riviera , France: Stay tuned as I am getting ready to release my first Live Workshops

Click on the following link, right here:  Templeformappingyourdesires .

That’s my sacred place for you to go, know more and sign up. 

 

SHARING IS CARING !

Pass this baby along if you know someone that would enjoy this !

How to create your own spiritual vignette

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WHY I TRANSFORMED “NATURE TABLE” INSPIRED FROM WALDORF PHILOSOPHY INTO MINI SPIRITUAL ALTARS THROUGHOUT OUR HOME.

Our daughters went through Waldorf schools during their Kindergarten years and I was fascinated by what they called “The Nature Table ” or “The nature corner”.  Those little vignettes are a very artful way of arranging a seasonal tableau with bits of Nature and handmade dolls made with cotton, felted wool and wood. They celebrate the spirit of the season. It’s the place in your home or classroom where you can follow the natural cycle of the year. It’s also a powerful way to connect with your inner world and “meditate” through peaceful vibes and connect with your higher self.

When our girls where little we had our nature table on a low up-cycled coffee table. Then, it gravitated on some shelves with some gnomes and fairies in the mix among rocks and driftwoods from our beach walks in California, gemstones from my mom, a big crystal rock my husband collected on a hike when he was 8 years old.

To be honest when we moved to Switzerland, we have not be as “committed” to our nature corner as we did in the past. But now at age 10 and almost 14, the girls are old enough to have their own little altars in their room to meditate, pray, think, be inspired, re-connect.

So our Nature corner  is becoming a spiritual corner. What I enjoy the most is the symbolism involved in the ritual. Their own altar is a canvas for their soul to expand and let their light shine to help them write their future.

It’s very easy to do. No perfection need. Just bring your imagination to the table. Literally.

  • Gather meaningful  (with positive stories infused) rocks, pine cones, fallen leaves, feathers, stones, crystals, images of loved ones or the divinity or god you worship trinkets that are meaningful for you, a vase for some fresh flowers or a purifying air plant, real or fake candles (no need to burn the house down if this is not safe enough where you have your altar…)

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SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK 

  • Find your sacred corner : it could be as big and decadent as a whole room if you fancy or as small and minimalist, possibly “Wabi Sabi”  as a cubby hole, a mini shelf, a little wooden box 
  • Schedule time for you. Just for you. Sage your sacred space. Be clear on a simple intention (having a joyful day / meeting the right person / not being stress during your job interview, etc.) Light a candle and some of your favorite incenses (be mindful of their components as some are made with toxic ingredients and create toxic fumes. / Repeat your Core Desired Feelings if you know them. Or repeat the sacred Mantra SA TA NA MA which is the foundational Kundalini chant. It’s Sanskrit for birth, life, death, rebirth.  And you end it with <<May the long time sun shine upon you // All love surround you // And the pure light within you // Guide your way home>>. I love using the Headspace app on my phone because it’s easy, very simple, in plain langage. Now if you like angelic music in the background and ethereal voice effect, this may not what you are looking for. It’s a kind and calm male voice. No music. No woo woo fluffy imaginary. There’s a free trial to see if you like it anyway ! 🙂 And I don’t make any money on this !  

Self-love: happy Valentine’s Day to your great self !

 

<<It’s not your job to like me. It is mine. >>

Byron Katie

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self-love (sĕlf′lŭv′)

n.

The instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being; regard for or love of one’s self.

“HAPPY VALENTINE DAY TO ME”

is what you too should say today…

We all need a space for ourselves to feel safe, nourished and creative.

One great way to take care of yourself is to create a space in your home that is nourishing to your heart, mind and soul.

One of my word for this part of the year is:

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Self-Love is also know as self-care.

Self -care is about taking care of ourselves on a regular basis so we can be at our best when helping/ serving / working with others.

It can be anything: cooking / journaling / hiking / reading / knitting/ painting / singing / praying. But also having a manicure / a massage / a coffee with a good friend / But it has to happen on a regular basis. I like using an “app” called “Teuxdeux” to schedule (and remind me) those precious Me-Time during my week. It is very interesting to see how Me time moments can be squished or even brutally crushed under more important tasks like “grocery shopping”, picking up dry cleaning or returning books to the library.

As Marie Forleo says it over and over: when it is not scheduled, it is not happening.

And that works also with Self-Love.

While self-help books all advise building self-love in order to be happy, a surprisingly low number of people truly love themselves. The good news is it’s never too late to begin to love you.

An excellent way to begin to love yourself is to do something loving for you.

 

When you treat yourself with kindness, it makes you feel good.

The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness.

Each loving act, however big or small, is a brick in the foundation of self-love.

Here are some jewels gathered from books and online articles.

From me to you.

Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU!

Self-love involves the following:

  • Self-care.Self-care means you treat yourself just as kindly and thoughtfully as you would anyone else. If you are uncomfortable doing something, then you don’t do it and that’s OK. Just because somebody might be disappointed that you didn’t help him or her, that’s his or her choice to feel that way.
  • Considering your needs.If that means others don’t get all of you, all the time, then that’s also OK. People can learn to adjust and be responsible for themselves.
  • Caring for yourself with the same level of effort that you do for others.That might mean you don’t always fulfill your goal of helping others because you’d prefer to spend time doing something for yourself. That’s not selfish.
  • Accepting yourself for all that you are — both your positive aspects and your human fallibility.You cannot be all good all the time. That’s OK. You can work on self-improvement, but that doesn’t mean you discount the parts of yourself you don’t like as much. Those aspects are still part of your whole.
  • Saying no to others’ requests.That’s OK. You are not totally responsible for everybody else’s needs.

Working toward self-love and acceptance can take time. If you are somebody who has little regard for yourself, then you might want to start with self-like-a-little, working up to self-like. In time, you’ll learn to self-love and accept yourself for all that you are.

The following  is my personal “playlist” (from books / quotes / mentors ) to remind me of the baby steps that I need to take every time I realize that I  am out of synch with  joy / connection / gratitude.

I know that I need to find my way back to MY SOURCE.

1 Nurture yourself.

Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture yourself spiritually by doing meditation.

2 Treat others with love and respect.

Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually, you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude.

3 Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness.

Share your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways, or make a small donation to a needy person or an unfortunate child.

4 Express yourself: Create art 

Surround yourself with meaningful words or picture that will lift your mood.

You may need to get feelings out, but not on your friends!

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Thrive on creativity. We are all remarkably creative, but our originality may be stunted by external factors. For example, your job may not allow you to express your true ingenuity. Our imagination allows us to manifest our most brilliant ideas to life if only we can open the inventive doors inside. Incorporate your creative tendencies into everyday life, from the way you dress, speak, decorate your home, etc. Expand your creative potential to reach its peak in time.

 

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5 Learn to let go of past events.

You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives, bad beginnings/moments. Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.

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Put positive statements up some places where you will see them each and every day. 

“I am beautiful.” or “I have the courage to love.” Write notes that remind you of what you love most about yourself. Read them out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them.

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7 Try to look past “material” objects and feelings

We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with, etc. Find your true wants objectively. Do you crave power, a religion, or simply a motive? Sometimes it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself, but figuring out what you really want will help you know yourself better and hopefully aid in answering important questions you often ask yourself.

8 Don’t define yourself by what you’ve done. 

Celebrate your accomplishments, but let go of the things you haven’t done…yet? Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (towards the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead. You are not your deeds, appearance, or bank balance.

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9 Be who you really are. 

Express yourself, laugh, play, or sing. Be crazy. Don’t be afraid of what others think. They feel the same way and want to express themselves, but are afraid to show it, too.

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10  Trust yourself. 

Don’t just follow other people’s suggestions blindly. Learn to trust who you really are.

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11 Think of five positive words that describe you. 

Try not to use words like ‘pretty’ and ‘nice’. Aim for a nice variety. Take your time and dig deep.

Mine could be:

caring / inventive / reliable  /initiator /communicative.

Your turn.

12 Practice receiving love. To truly love is to be able to receive it.

When someone loves you, does some kind deeds to you, says kind words, gives you gifts, or gives you compliments, embrace it.

Allow yourself to feel the love that has come your way. Know that you are worthy of love.

13 Do what you love. 

Make yourself happy.

What do you love to do?

If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result, you become happier and more loving. Do something you love each day.

When was the last time you did something you truly loved? Our ambition is admirable, but our lives have become so busy that we often dismiss simple pleasures to take care of business. Whether it’s a hobby, talent, or special craft, take thirty minutes out of your day, each day, to practice what nourishes your soul.

Everything can wait while you indulge in your beloved self @unlieusurterre ( and yes, it is  a “tweetable”)

 

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14  Stop comparing yourself to others. 

Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous. A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world. Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love. No one is quite like you. Just be you. Be grateful for being the wonderful you. Do the best you can. Be the best you can and love yourself more. Then, you have more love to give to others.

Recognizing your strongest traits endows you with deep knowledge of the self, a precious tool you can use to cultivate your best assets. Understand what are your shining qualities and showcase them with beaming confidence. Once you acknowledge your strengths, you can raise your standards in all elements of life. The moment you begin to believe that you deserve better is the moment you receive better.

Celebrate your worth. It’s easy to become distracted by potential achievements and neglect past accomplishments. Celebrate your personal triumphs, both big and small, and let every former victory be a fervent reminder that future wins await, too. Don’t be afraid to raise your glass and toast to that amazing person who’s conquered their every challenge: you.

 

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15  Stop trying to be perfect. 

Stop criticizing yourself for being less than perfect. Always do your best, but not reaching perfection is not failure. Just follow all the steps above, and don’t let anyone’s expectations of you put any pressure on you. Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.

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16  Forgive yourself.

 Every one of us makes mistakes — in relationships, finances, personal decisions, and so on. Mistakes can be costly reminders to think before we act, but they are also encompassed by greater lessons. Remembering this can help us forgive our former failures and discern their higher purpose. When we forgive ourselves for our shortcomings we can redirect our attention to new efforts that produce new results.

17 Put yourself first.

There lies beauty in sacrifice. But when you constantly put yourself second, you set up an inevitable pattern of behavior. In time, you settle for second place in more than one area of life. Reevaluate what it means to put yourself first: engaging in your interests, pursuing your ambitions, and ensuring your well-being. Practice this mantra in all difficult situations: If it doesn’t bring me good, it isn’t worth my effort.

Extending too much love to others can leave us lacking in love for ourselves. We must walk the fine line of attending to others and tending to ourselves, all the while never falling second to the needs of another. Because to love ourselves is to know ourselves, and to know ourselves is to recognize the full spectrum of our powers.

Cut out all negative influences. Make a list of the people in your life who have no place being there. You know who they are — those who drain you physically, emotionally, or mentally, who take advantage of you or cause you any form of stagnation. Literally cut your list in half and let this be reflective of the way in which you will trim away these negative influences in real life.

18 Say I love you.

Speak it to yourself every morning; look in a mirror and say “I love you” in a loud voice. We automatically critique, blame, and fault ourselves for nearly everything, rarely acknowledging the things we do well or those we ought to be proud of. Show yourself daily doses of well-deserved appreciation.

Release love to yourself. We hoard our abundant love of the self within us, as if waiting to release it to the right person. In reality this love was meant to be released only to ourselves. Allow your self-love to flow freely by eliminating criticisms, insecurities, and doubts. The attention you should show another person is secondary to the attention you should show yourself. Why wait for someone else to love you when you can love yourself first?

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SOUL WORK FOR THE WEEK⩔ 

Time to re-frame your thinking about Valentine’s Day :

  • Make a “Happy Bubble List” : what would you love to do this week.
  • Schedule it. Share about it.  When you share about it: it becomes real and people will help you remembering with their friendly natural questions  (How is your Happy Bubble List going?)
  • Learn to drop the “should” and “must”
  • Enjoy the feeling of being more aligned with yourself

⩔SHARING IS CARING⩔

And I will always try to make it easy to do it for you!

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